With Valentines day just around the corner, I thought today would be a great day to talk about love. I answer questions on www.webanswers.com and there I see a lot of questions concerning love and relationships. Webanswers is a website that allows people to ask and answer questions. Multiple people answer questions and the person who asks the question has to award a "best answer" to their question. There are several different categories on webanswers, and I happen to rank as number one on the relationships leaderboard (http://www.webanswers.com/leaderboards.cfm) ( I am Goldengirl).
I find it somewhat funny that of all the excellent members on webanswers who give awesome advice, I hapen to be number one in the relationships category. How I became the relationship expert is a mystery to me, because my life has not been one that was full of love. In fact, I might say that up until five years ago, love was not something that I had ever experienced from a human in it's genuine form. The love I had received up until that point was love that was based on everything but the truest intent. It was love that was conditional, and often, love that was sick.
Five years ago I met someone who blew the lid off of everything I thought love was supposed to be. Before I met him I had my notions and ideas of what love was, and my mentality then, was that love did not exist. I was not a believer at all. I was scared and wary of it. I wanted no part of it, because I knew from experience that when I loved someone, that love would never be returned. When I met this man, I expected nothing from him except to have a friend. What I got was so much more.
My husband and I have had some rough times lately, but thankfully things are getting much, much better. Now, I am beginning to see the man I fell in love with again, and it feels great. Just a few weeks ago, I wanted out of this relationship. The person who had been my best friend was turning into my worst enemy. It was scary, and so sad. I was losing my faith in love again. But here we are, just a few weeks later, and I am so happy to say that God has turned our situation around. We went from being on the brink, to now being dead center. I am not saying our relationship is perfect, we still have some kinks to iron out, but for the most part our love has been restored.
We will not be doing anything special for Valentines day. I am not too big on holidays of this sort. To me, it feels like a cop out to buy someone a gift one day of the year, when you haven't given them your best the other days of the year. What I want to celebrate is love that is true all year long. This is the kind of love I have. Even when we argue or don't get along well, I am confident that my husband loves me with a real love. When you spend so many years wondering what love feels like, you learn to appreciate it when it finally appears. This is why I am so grateful to have a husband like I have.
But what about you? How will you be spending Valentines this year? Will you be lonely and miserable, wishing you had someone to love? Will you be heartbroken because the love you have is slipping away? Or will you be rejoicing because you have found your forever love? Whatever your circumstance, I hope that you will feel God's love, because as time has passed I have learned that God's love is the purest love, and the only perfected love.
If you are spending this Valentines saddened by the loss of your love, I just want to encourage you to not give up hope. God has a track record of turning the impossible around. Don't give up on the person that God has sent your way! At times you have to know when to fold em' but if there is any spark of love left in you, let it glow until it becomes a fire again. I truly hope that God will be with you this Valentines day and that you will feel his all consuming love for you. His death and resurrection is proof positive that He cares for you with a deep and abiding love. Best Wishes this Valentine's day.
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